14 Things I have Learned About Sex by the Age of 40

14 Things I Have Learned About Sex by the Age of 40





Here is a list of sex related things I have learned that I think we can all shake our heads in agreement to. What’s listed here isn’t anything so new and unusual that you haven’t done, figured out or are willing to try yourself. These are just those little things we tend to ignore or not pay as much attention to in the course of our sexual lives. As always, please feel free to add to the list and leave comments. I’m always happy to see what you have to say.



• Keep it neat: You can let the hair on your ‘who-ha’ grow wild as the bushes in the backyard of an abandoned house or cut cute designs in it or shave the hair completely off, it doesn’t matter just as long as you keep it neat and clean. Fellas, this applies to you as well!



• Size does matter: Yes, size does matter and we’re talking more girth, meaning width than length. Waaay back in the day I did it with a guy and it felt like I was being fucked with a pencil. No need to wonder, that was the LAST time we did it! Ladies can work with a nice size penis if it has some width to it, but if it’s just long for no reason, you need a pencil sharpener not a pussy.



• Masturbation is cool: Whoever says different needs to go back to the day of burning witches at the stake. Who can treat you better than you? Nobody. So enjoy yourself.



• Cuddle time is fun: It doesn’t matter how strong, big or tough he is he likes to bask in the afterglow of your lovemaking session too. Cuddle up next to your lover and listen to his heart beat.



• Don’t fake the funk: Or should I say, don’t fake the fuck? Either way, don’t fake that you’re enjoying it when you’re not. Tell your lover what you would like done so that you both can reach the ultimate ‘O’ the way you should.



• He likes it funky: You just got in from work and you want to head straight for the shower. Or you just arrived home from the gym and you’re ready to wash the grit and grim off. Trust me, I understand but what you think is funky is a turn-on for your lover. It’s your natural scent times 100 and he LOVES it. Go ‘head, let him hit it!



• He loves you: Stop being embarrassed by your stretch marks, old scars, saggy breasts and other flaws. Believe me he loves every scratch, bite and mole on your lovely body.



• Dress up: You always wear those jeans and that same old shirt. Retire that tired outfit and give him/her something to look at and want more! When you dress good, you not only look good but you feel good. Remind your lover why they took the time out to come and talk to you when you first met.



• Use technology: With us being busy everyday for different reasons sometimes it’s hard to keep the love flowing and going. Send a sexy text message or email detailing what you want to do the next time you’re together. Pick up the phone and have phone sex or leave a steamy voice mail. All will be appreciated.



• Talk dirty: It’s also called Aural Sex and all you have to do is say it! Away from one another or face-to-face, have some verbal stimulating conversation that is going to drive you both insane. It’s okay, we’re adults.



• Let’s Play: You can dress up and role play in the privacy of your home or you can take it to another level and play outside the home. My husband and I will go out and ‘meet’ each other and talk to one another like we just met. Asking questions and flirting adds so much fun to it. At the end of the night one of us gets to take the other home!



• Nipples, the real secret: His nipples are just as sensitive as yours and he would love for you to pay some attention to them! It does enhance the arousal experience for him. So next time gently lick or nibble on them and watch his reaction!



• You first: I have learned that you are with a truly attentive and wonderful lover if he is pleasing you and wanting you to come first. What a gem!



• Push the right button: Yes fellas, the intercourse thing is wonderful but you want your woman to feel total bliss, pamper her clit. Sometimes we just love to have clitoral stimulation without feeling like we’re the nail and you’re the hammer. A lot of woman can only have an orgasm with clitoral stimulation. Surprise!

Erotically Speaking,
Karma Eve