Karma Eve
Karma Eve
Friday, September 17, 2010
Erotically Speaking & Loving It!: Erotic Artists Unite!
Erotically Speaking & Loving It!: Erotic Artists Unite!: "As a creative soul you learn early on that you're different from what I like to call the 'Normies.' Normies are normal people. Creative peo..."
Erotic Artists Unite!
As a creative soul you learn early on that you're different from what I like to call the 'Normies."
Normies are normal people.
Creative people that are reading this are beginning to shake their heads in agreement because they not only understand the difference, they live it.
Now, add a twist to it and imagine being the creative soul of an erotic artist. Aww damn! You knew I was going somewhere with this. Come on, let's walk and talk...
From a previous blog I've written, you already know some of the challenges of being an erotic artist can come from people who have held on to their virgin status even though they have children. Erotic artists can be labeled as a freak or nasty for all the wrong reasons. We don't mind being freaks or nasty but the reason behind it has to be good...real good!
Then there is another challenge we face and that challenge comes from some of our own...Yes, OTHER erotic artists not being down for the cause. You would think with us being in such a small community and fighting the same fight, we'd be a little more understanding and supportive of one another. It's rare if you meet an erotic artist that is willing to share information, tips or even the same stage with another E.A. (erotic artist) without it being an issue. Why is that?
I once emailed a well known E.A. telling them who I was, what I had done so far and asked a question hoping to get an answer as well as them saying, "Good luck." Or, "Keep doing what you're doing." Or, "Stay focused, it's hard out here for artists like us." Or even, "I hope to see you perform in the future." I did not get a response at all! Was that too much to ask from someone whose work that I had at one time admired and whose career I had once followed? I had spent my hard earned money to help get them where they are.
I know, I know, maybe my email got lost in that black hole that swallows up everything that we find important to only ourselves. Maybe they never read it and it was actually read by their personal assistant or someone else on their team. Maybe they sent me a reply but their response got caught up in that black hole that swallows up everything that they find important to them. Or maybe I'm such a star within my own rights that they were afraid to give me advice for fear I'd use it and shoot far and beyond where they were like a rocket to the moon! Okay, maybe not that last one but anything is possible. Right?
I know or have friends who know E.A.'s who states they're tired of other E.A.'s not being supportive or acting like they don't exists. Keep in mind, all erotic artists aren't the same. We are not all going to write, paint, or perform the same. We each have our own unique style and just because one artist's style doesn't match up with yours does not mean they are less of an artist. It just means they are bringing their own flavor.
Anyway, I believe we all need words of encouragement and sometimes getting those kind words from someone who has walked that mile in the shoes you're wearing let's you know the path you're on is worth every step. I truly believe in what some call, paying it forward and karma, literally and figuratively. I believe in giving good advice to those who come to me. I believe in passing on information such as a websites, an idea, a person's name or anything that may get them a step ahead. I believe in taking the time to talk to someone and encouraging them to share their gift and to keep moving forward. If they get ahead of the game before I do, that is how God meant for it to be. I hold my right hand high and I say aloud, I AM NOT A HATER! I AM AN EROTIC ARTIST APPRECIATOR!
To all Erotic Artists, show other Erotic Artists some love. Stop thinking that someone is going to steal your spot. If you're worried about that then you need to up your game, don't you think? Let's unite because we have the rest of the world to conquer! To show that you're ready to turn over a new leaf, go out and buy my book, Erotic Bloom and tell your other erotic loving friends to get it too. Hey, you have to start somewhere.
Erotically Speaking,
Karma Eve
Normies are normal people.
Creative people that are reading this are beginning to shake their heads in agreement because they not only understand the difference, they live it.
Now, add a twist to it and imagine being the creative soul of an erotic artist. Aww damn! You knew I was going somewhere with this. Come on, let's walk and talk...
From a previous blog I've written, you already know some of the challenges of being an erotic artist can come from people who have held on to their virgin status even though they have children. Erotic artists can be labeled as a freak or nasty for all the wrong reasons. We don't mind being freaks or nasty but the reason behind it has to be good...real good!
Then there is another challenge we face and that challenge comes from some of our own...Yes, OTHER erotic artists not being down for the cause. You would think with us being in such a small community and fighting the same fight, we'd be a little more understanding and supportive of one another. It's rare if you meet an erotic artist that is willing to share information, tips or even the same stage with another E.A. (erotic artist) without it being an issue. Why is that?
I once emailed a well known E.A. telling them who I was, what I had done so far and asked a question hoping to get an answer as well as them saying, "Good luck." Or, "Keep doing what you're doing." Or, "Stay focused, it's hard out here for artists like us." Or even, "I hope to see you perform in the future." I did not get a response at all! Was that too much to ask from someone whose work that I had at one time admired and whose career I had once followed? I had spent my hard earned money to help get them where they are.
I know, I know, maybe my email got lost in that black hole that swallows up everything that we find important to only ourselves. Maybe they never read it and it was actually read by their personal assistant or someone else on their team. Maybe they sent me a reply but their response got caught up in that black hole that swallows up everything that they find important to them. Or maybe I'm such a star within my own rights that they were afraid to give me advice for fear I'd use it and shoot far and beyond where they were like a rocket to the moon! Okay, maybe not that last one but anything is possible. Right?
I know or have friends who know E.A.'s who states they're tired of other E.A.'s not being supportive or acting like they don't exists. Keep in mind, all erotic artists aren't the same. We are not all going to write, paint, or perform the same. We each have our own unique style and just because one artist's style doesn't match up with yours does not mean they are less of an artist. It just means they are bringing their own flavor.
Anyway, I believe we all need words of encouragement and sometimes getting those kind words from someone who has walked that mile in the shoes you're wearing let's you know the path you're on is worth every step. I truly believe in what some call, paying it forward and karma, literally and figuratively. I believe in giving good advice to those who come to me. I believe in passing on information such as a websites, an idea, a person's name or anything that may get them a step ahead. I believe in taking the time to talk to someone and encouraging them to share their gift and to keep moving forward. If they get ahead of the game before I do, that is how God meant for it to be. I hold my right hand high and I say aloud, I AM NOT A HATER! I AM AN EROTIC ARTIST APPRECIATOR!
To all Erotic Artists, show other Erotic Artists some love. Stop thinking that someone is going to steal your spot. If you're worried about that then you need to up your game, don't you think? Let's unite because we have the rest of the world to conquer! To show that you're ready to turn over a new leaf, go out and buy my book, Erotic Bloom and tell your other erotic loving friends to get it too. Hey, you have to start somewhere.
Erotically Speaking,
Karma Eve
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Say What?!
This has been bothering me for a long time, but today it really got under my skin. I know there are many things that irritate me, but this has to be in my top 10 list of 'Things That Makes My Ass Itch'.
This is something that is plain and simple. Nothing fancy. You don't need a degree to do this, but I will say you do need a certain amount of respect for self as well as others and a bit of common sense. Maybe that's why it's so hard for people to do because they are missing those particular ingredients.
Anyway, I won't keep you in suspense any longer, ladies and gentlemen one of the many things that makes my ass itch is...*drum roll please*....
NOT KNOWING HOW TO TALK!
What? What did you think it was? I told you it was simple. And before you ask, I know you're saying what does this have to do with the erotic world? A FUCKING LOT! Sit back and open your mind and let me explain what I'm talking about.
The game is still the same...
Boy sees girl
Boy wants to get to know girl
Boy opens mouth and sticks foot in...dumb boy
Girl rolls eyes and moves on
Even though I'm a married woman, I still look good enough for men to think I'm available and they want to 'holla' at me. Trust me, that is just what they do...HOLLA!
"HEY!"
"YO!"
"WHAT UP?"
"WHAT CHO NAME?"
Do they really think that is what is going to get my attention enough for me to actually stop, tell them who I am and then give them my phone number so he can 'holla' at me later? That's all it takes, uh fellas? Wrong!
It takes so much more than that to get the attention of a decent woman. Let me repeat that...I said, it takes so much MORE than that to get the attention of a DECENT woman!
Whatever happened to a man seeing a woman and just politely greeting her?
"Good morning. How are you?" Or, "Hello, are you enjoying this beautiful day as much as I am?"
See, saying something that simple (there's that word again) not only says you can maybe hold a decent conversation, but it makes that woman answer you. If you're good enough with your convo game when she answers you have something else to say to take that conversation up, to at least half a notch.
And let me stop right here for a moment to tell all men, when you ask a woman "how are you?" and she replies by saying, "fine" DO NOT say, "I know you are." Real women HATE that!
Men you have to always be prepared for a great opening line or greeting. Women are all over the place and one that strikes your fancy may tip up on you at any minute and exclaiming loudly, "You sho is fine!" does not get it. This morning as I was walking to work, I passed this guy who was looking at me as I was approaching him as if I was a sausage, egg and cheese biscuit dipped in homemade gravy and wrapped in bacon. I saw how he licked his dry lips and then wiped the wetness off his mouth with his big ashy hand. Then just as I got up on him and took two steps pass, he shouts out, "You slim!" Let me tell you it took everything I had to not turn around and say, "You fat and ashy and dirty!!"
Everyday (because I walk to and from work) I hear a so-called grown man allowing some of the stupidiest lines I've ever heard to tumble out of their mouths.
Men, don't you notice women try NOT to make eye contact with you? Don't you see us wearing our headphones, earbuds and bluetooth and honestly, we're not even on the phone or listening to music. We're just doing everything in our power to NOT come in verbal contact with you.
Now how does this translate over to the erotic world? How does foreplay and sex come from this? If you don't know, this is why you always have bullshit relationships. Think about it, if you approached a woman with a decent conversation, unless she wasn't interested, was involved or didn't find you attractive, she wouldn't have a reason to not give you her phone number. Women love a man who has the gift of gab. Women love when a man shows how smart he is with all he knows. It's like being on an interstate with a fast car changing from lane to lane at a high rate of speed. You can blow her mind with what's on your mind with all the knowledge you have with topic after topic. Women think a sexy man is a man with good conversation. What do women usually brag about when they first meet a man? "We talked all night." You ain't hearing me.
If you're smart and can talk to her right, you can talk her right out of those panties. So see, it all starts with the initial conversation. Remember, first impressions are lasting impressions. You can either get her with, "Hi, your dress is very nice." Or you can get the eye roll, the hand and a swift kick in the ass with, "Hey, you got a big booty!" Like Black Sheep once said, the choice is yours. You can get with this or you can get with that. Whatever you say, just get it right!
Erotically Speaking,
Karma Eve
This is something that is plain and simple. Nothing fancy. You don't need a degree to do this, but I will say you do need a certain amount of respect for self as well as others and a bit of common sense. Maybe that's why it's so hard for people to do because they are missing those particular ingredients.
Anyway, I won't keep you in suspense any longer, ladies and gentlemen one of the many things that makes my ass itch is...*drum roll please*....
NOT KNOWING HOW TO TALK!
What? What did you think it was? I told you it was simple. And before you ask, I know you're saying what does this have to do with the erotic world? A FUCKING LOT! Sit back and open your mind and let me explain what I'm talking about.
The game is still the same...
Boy sees girl
Boy wants to get to know girl
Boy opens mouth and sticks foot in...dumb boy
Girl rolls eyes and moves on
Even though I'm a married woman, I still look good enough for men to think I'm available and they want to 'holla' at me. Trust me, that is just what they do...HOLLA!
"HEY!"
"YO!"
"WHAT UP?"
"WHAT CHO NAME?"
Do they really think that is what is going to get my attention enough for me to actually stop, tell them who I am and then give them my phone number so he can 'holla' at me later? That's all it takes, uh fellas? Wrong!
It takes so much more than that to get the attention of a decent woman. Let me repeat that...I said, it takes so much MORE than that to get the attention of a DECENT woman!
Whatever happened to a man seeing a woman and just politely greeting her?
"Good morning. How are you?" Or, "Hello, are you enjoying this beautiful day as much as I am?"
See, saying something that simple (there's that word again) not only says you can maybe hold a decent conversation, but it makes that woman answer you. If you're good enough with your convo game when she answers you have something else to say to take that conversation up, to at least half a notch.
And let me stop right here for a moment to tell all men, when you ask a woman "how are you?" and she replies by saying, "fine" DO NOT say, "I know you are." Real women HATE that!
Men you have to always be prepared for a great opening line or greeting. Women are all over the place and one that strikes your fancy may tip up on you at any minute and exclaiming loudly, "You sho is fine!" does not get it. This morning as I was walking to work, I passed this guy who was looking at me as I was approaching him as if I was a sausage, egg and cheese biscuit dipped in homemade gravy and wrapped in bacon. I saw how he licked his dry lips and then wiped the wetness off his mouth with his big ashy hand. Then just as I got up on him and took two steps pass, he shouts out, "You slim!" Let me tell you it took everything I had to not turn around and say, "You fat and ashy and dirty!!"
Everyday (because I walk to and from work) I hear a so-called grown man allowing some of the stupidiest lines I've ever heard to tumble out of their mouths.
Men, don't you notice women try NOT to make eye contact with you? Don't you see us wearing our headphones, earbuds and bluetooth and honestly, we're not even on the phone or listening to music. We're just doing everything in our power to NOT come in verbal contact with you.
Now how does this translate over to the erotic world? How does foreplay and sex come from this? If you don't know, this is why you always have bullshit relationships. Think about it, if you approached a woman with a decent conversation, unless she wasn't interested, was involved or didn't find you attractive, she wouldn't have a reason to not give you her phone number. Women love a man who has the gift of gab. Women love when a man shows how smart he is with all he knows. It's like being on an interstate with a fast car changing from lane to lane at a high rate of speed. You can blow her mind with what's on your mind with all the knowledge you have with topic after topic. Women think a sexy man is a man with good conversation. What do women usually brag about when they first meet a man? "We talked all night." You ain't hearing me.
If you're smart and can talk to her right, you can talk her right out of those panties. So see, it all starts with the initial conversation. Remember, first impressions are lasting impressions. You can either get her with, "Hi, your dress is very nice." Or you can get the eye roll, the hand and a swift kick in the ass with, "Hey, you got a big booty!" Like Black Sheep once said, the choice is yours. You can get with this or you can get with that. Whatever you say, just get it right!
Erotically Speaking,
Karma Eve
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