Does He Remember

He was tall, caramel and handsome

Had a smile so bright it could light up a room

He was my everything, my every dream, he was woven in the fiber of my being

Hands like a giant’s

Heart as big as the ocean

Kisses sweeter than sugar

He was my teacher and I was his student learning to master the art of making love

Needing him to teach me lessons

Body as strong as steel

Eyes drawing me in, loving every inch of my skin, drinking my essence like an alcoholic drinks sin

His touch left me…breathless

He was the sculptor and I was his clay being molded into his work of sensual art

And if he were here right now I would ask if he remembered too

He named me, he claimed me

Most importantly he loved me and never shamed me

And when he entered the world between my thighs he inflamed me

Taking me places I didn’t know I could go

We were on a spiritual high where we sat on cloud 9 basking in the sweetness of our sensual bond

Allowing my legs and heart to be opened he dove in head first deeper and deeper

Until he touched the fountain of love that sprang forth the juices of my internal river

We swam in my wetness of love like we were swimming in the deep blue sea of Mother Earth

Doing a natural backstroke against my sensual waves

I was impressed with the depth, the width and the circumference of our fucking

It was like advanced math and only we knew the formula

It was like the earth, sun, moon and stars all aligned in the universe when we made love

Our sexual thunder roared and clouds formed causing a light rainstorm to fall from my heaven

Drenched in liquid love we took in big gulps of air and purified our lungs with lust

It was erotic oxygen for our soul and I wonder if he remembers this moment about us

As I exhaled and opened my eyes the only traces of him was a faint smell of musk and my sexy memories

I wonder if sometimes he thinks of me

He left me with passion-filled power

And a sensual knowing of self

Had a smile so bright it could light up this room

His touch left me…breathless

Kisses sweeter than sugar

And I wonder if he remembers too

Erotically Speaking, 

Karma Eve

Al

Al

She was beautiful. I knew when I laid my eyes upon her that I was looking at my future wife. When I finally got up the nerve to walk over to where she was standing with friends and talk to her, her gorgeous eyes smiled at me first. I felt like I was automatically hypnotized and I wanted to tell her right then and there I’d take care of her forever if she’d run off with me.

I did nothing of the sort. I politely asked if she’d like to go out for a sandwich and a cold drink. Without hesitation, she politely accepted. Three months later we were Mr. and Mrs. Realizing early in our marriage we were unable to have children, we didn’t focus on the negative we showered one another with love, just like we would have showered any child that would have been a blessing in our lives. I couldn’t have asked for a better wife. Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.” Well, I know I had found a good thing and the Lord truly blessed me. I had my best friend with me forever and always. I knew she felt the same because she never failed to tell me on a regular basis.

We planned our lives accordingly. Once I retired from the army we settled down, me with a good reliable government job and she as a clerk in a ladies’ department store. (She later became a buyer then the manager). We purchased a nice home in a wonderful neighborhood where she was able to garden in our big backyard like she had always dreamt of doing and I…well me, I just tinkered around in the garage on many days. She always joked and crowned me the ‘King of Unfinished Projects’. I would just laugh and always find another project that I’d claim I would finish and never did. Our home was the place to be. Family and friends spilled in for many holidays, anniversaries, get-togethers and whatever else we would celebrate. Life was good and we were happy. My favorite memories are of our vacations or what we called our retreats.

Just thinking about our getaways still brings a smile to my face.

Sometimes we would get in our car with no real destination in mind. Whichever way the car was pointed that was where we would head. Those were some of our best trips, the unplanned ones. One summer we packed a suitcase and a picnic basket and drove until we found ourselves over five hundred miles away from home and laid out on a beach. We got there in enough time to grab a quick dinner and a bottle of wine.

Now we both knew she wasn’t the biggest drinker but isn’t that what makes it so much fun? Laying back on an old sheet in the sand and counting the stars, we made wishes off of the ones that had fallen. Little did she know my wish was going to come true.

I took her pretty face in my hands and slowly kissed her soft, ruby red lips. She took my breath away every time I kissed her. As her tongue circled mine I could taste the sweetness of the wine mixed with the warmth of her beautiful mouth. I couldn’t control myself, nor did I want to. Slowly I pushed her back into the cool sheet and began making a trail of kisses along her face and down her neck. I felt her long legs slightly part to allow me to fit inside my special place. The wine made her giggle as I unbuttoned her shirt. I lived for her laughter, giggles and all. We could hear the waves crashing on the shore as a nice evening breeze blew across our fevered bodies. The moon was perfectly round and being guard over us and the stars we had just counted earlier were dancing along with our hearts. I slowly stripped us down and we began a slow rhythm of our hips, back and forth. She released a soft sigh as she closed her eyes and enjoyed our beach-time play. I took full view of her body, she was my personal angel. She was just as beautiful as the first day I saw her. Her breasts soft, full and rising to the occasion, I took them both in my hands and let my warm tongue swirl around her perky nipples. I inhaled her natural scent that mixed well with the smell of the salty air that blew in from the ocean. I was hypnotized and under her love spell. She opened her eyes, gave a smile and guided me into her heaven. I was breathless I mean I literally was holding my breath, becoming light headed with ecstasy. I could feel her spirit meet with mine, laughing, holding, kissing and making divine type of love. She continued to invite me deeper inside to explore her in every way. I kissed and licked every crevice of her body. She responded to my moans with mimicked motions. I closed my eyes when she whispered lightly in my ear, telling how much she loved me and how wonderful I made her feel. I loved her too and was not afraid to say it. As a matter of fact, we said a lot on that beach that summer night. I wished that I could have put that moment in a bottle, tightened the cap and threw it out in the ocean further than the eye could see only to have it drift back to shore years later for us to find, reopen and relive that night all over again. We took each other to another level. We always did, each and every time.

Her radiant raven black, shiny hair, mesmerizing eyes, and gorgeous smile knocked me off my feet whenever I looked at her. She made my heart sing. Then it happened…

I call him Al. He is definitely no friend of mine and if she really knew what was happening, she knew he was the enemy. I blame him for stealing my love from me. I knew we were both getting older and our bodies wouldn’t be as taut, our vision wouldn’t be as clear, the hearing wouldn’t be as good and we’d move a little slower, not being able to do what we once did, but I never expected this.

It seemed like it just crept up on us suddenly. She would forget little things here and there like where she put the keys or forgetting what she was going to say in the middle of a sentence or even forgetting the recipe to her famous banana nut bread she made every Saturday evening for our Sunday brunch. But don’t we all forget little things at some time or another? I didn’t worry because I thought it was just the new path we were on to the golden years. When her personality changed from being sweet as a ten pound bag of sugar to being bitter and sour as an old pickle and she began to accuse me of things I won’t even mention, that’s when I knew something was wrong. She needed me and didn’t know it. She fought me, she yelled, she cursed. I was lost, confused and hurt but I knew it wasn’t her doing this. At least it wasn’t the ‘her’ I had known and loved all of these years.

So many tests, appointments and visits with various doctors. After all of these years and with the help of aging and my own weakening body, I wasn’t capable of providing for her any longer. I looked deep into her eyes the day I had to give her the news that she had to go. If she knew to be hurt like I was, she would have I’m sure. I had promised from the beginning that I’d take care of her forever. Now here I was after five decades of marriage breaking my first promise to her. She looked back at me but her once bright eyes were empty. I was talking to someone who had taken my love’s place. Nonetheless, I still loved her. Even if she couldn’t remember, I remembered for her. I remembered birthdays, anniversaries and holidays of us and our surviving friends. I kept alive the memories of all of our gatherings we had with family and friends over the years. I replayed over and over again, not just for myself but for her all of our vacations and retreats from the East to the West coast and little towns in between. I continued to tell her the stories that matched the photos in those albums we had kept over time. Some days she remembered, most of the time she didn’t. No matter what I told her I loved her each and every day just as I had always done.

I don’t know who was hurting more, me or her. We were living in separate places and living separate lives. She stayed in a facility not too far from the home we built together. I stayed in the house that once was our home, still praying that one day these last few years of stolen love would be returned to us. I traveled five miles each way, everyday to sit with her. Sometimes we talked and sometimes we just watched television. I was so angry with Al for stealing her away from me. Alzheimer, the word that echoed over and over in my mind like a bad song I couldn’t take off of repeat. I heard the doctor when my love was first diagnosed but I had to have her affirm what she had said to me again for fear that what I heard was true. Alzheimer, the disease that slowly slips your every being from you one memory at a time, dissolving all the photos from your mental photo album, shredding all the movies from your internal theater, and sneaking into your life and destroying you and those who love you. Before I even knew what happened I went from living the best life a man could ever ask for to having my soul zapped out of me like a mosquito flying directly into a bug zapper on the back porch on a hot August night. I can only imagine how my lovely wife feels.

One day last week she went through another bad episode. When I arrived at the home I was informed by the staff on duty at the visitor’s desk that she had been hostile and difficult to deal with refusing to eat when they served her lunch earlier that day and refusing to take her medication. Slowly I made my way down to her private room with a saddened spirit and a heavy heart. There I found her arguing with one of the nurses. I asked the nurse if I could be alone with my wife and I promised her I would make sure she had her medication. The nurse gave me an assuring look, showing empathy to my situation, agreed and promised to bring her something to eat since she refused lunch earlier. All the doctors, nurses and staff knew me, so it wasn’t a problem for me to try to calm the situation and calm my wife. After the nurse left I carefully explained to my wife the importance of taking her medication and listening to the nurses. She just sat there on the side of her bed not saying a word. The yellow nightgown I had recently bought her with the yellow and orange-billed duck on the hem hung gently off her shoulder. Her hair was wild and coming out of her ponytail holder. I didn’t know if she understood what I was saying or not. I moved closer to her, handed her a small cup of water and her two pills and told her to take her medicine. Her delicate, blue-veined hands took both the cup and the pill from me and she did as I had instructed her to do without hesitation. I adjusted the gown back on her shoulder and smoothed her now salt and pepper hair back as best as I could with my bare hand. Taking the empty cup from her, I heard her say, “I just want to go on vacation. I miss our vacations.”

You could have knocked me over with a feather. I looked deep into her eyes and finally saw that familiar brilliant smile her eyes used to give me. I looked into her eyes and saw ‘her’, the wife I knew. With tears resting on the rim of my ears I softly replied, “I miss our vacations too.”

She then got into her bed and turned and looked out the window which faced a nearby empty field that had wildflowers of different colors in full bloom. The sun was high and shining brightly, just like the many times it had been when we drove to our unknown destinations. I removed my shoes and placed them neatly against the wall in a small space between her bed and the nightstand. I then gently got in bed behind her where I molded my body against hers. I could smell the aroma of peaches coming from her hair as I felt her move back and closer to me. Resting my hand on the soft fleshy part of her hip, I thanked God for this moment. For in this moment she was here and it wasn’t about where we used to be or where we were going to be, it was about this very moment, the moment she remembers a bit of our happiness and love.

Listening to her breathe deeply as she fell asleep in my arms, I kissed the back of her head and whispered “I love you” as I celebrated our victory against Al…even if it was just for a moment, we won.

Erotically Speaking, 

Karma Eve

Find 100 Ways

In this new day and era a lot of men haven’t been taught or have been lacking in the area of finding ways to show their mate that they love them. Sometimes outside influences such as other male friends or the media tell the men in our lives it’s not ‘cool’ to show affection or be in love. The world is teaching our men to be hardcore at all times. There may even be the occasional lazy lover, the guy who feels like he doesn’t need to put in the effort to show how he really feels deep, deep down inside.

Regardless of his reason behind not showing his girlfriend, wife, soul mate, help mate and rib of his life his love, his feelings need to be displayed and displayed often. The love of his life needs to know without a doubt that they are truly loved on every level. Here is a list that I created that can help point a lost lover back in the right direction. Some of these suggestions are light and will bring a smile to her face regularly. Some are lifetime changes and are for building a more committed relationship. Have fun with this and may you be blessed in true love.

1. Look her in her eyes- 
When you talk to her look in her eyes, it lets her know you’re sincere and not trying to hide anything from her

2. Don’t lie to her- 
You are not a child. Not telling the entire story is considered lying too. It’s better she knows the truth from you and is able to handle it than for her to learn it other ways

3. Ask her how she is-
Ask her how her day went and really listen

4. Listen to her when she talks. Don’t just hear-
There is a difference

5. Be a man of your word- 
If you say you’re going to do something, do it. Scarface can’t be the ONLY man who believes all he has is his word and his…well, you know the rest

6. Plan a special event-
Weekend getaway or just because, don’t wait until it’s her birthday or a holiday

7. If you give her something or pay a debt for her, don’t remind her of what you’ve done at a later time-
If you gave from the heart it was a gift. There is a difference from a gift and a loan

8. Give her space-
Realize when she needs ‘Me-time’. Sometimes she just wants to soak in the tub surrounded by candles with her favorite artists singing in the background. Let her, she’ll be out soon enough to spend time with you and will be a better person for it.

9. Be encouraging-
Let her know that she CAN do it whatever that ‘it’ may be and you support her fully. Whatever she’s doing is going to be an improvement for you both

10. Allow her days to be weak-
Let her bitch and cry. That’s how we get it out of our systems. We’re women if you want someone stronger, get a husband!

11. Stop being sneaky-
Women have natural built in detectors and all alarms go off when the ‘trust’ seal is being broken. You’ll never get away with it…at least not for too long

12. Run her a hot bath-
Fill it to the rim with bubbles and scented oil

13. Pay for a service-
You like seeing her with her hair done? You like seeing her nails polished? You like when her eyebrows are arched? There are enough small things to choose from. Pick one and let her know this time it’s on you

14. Talk to her parents-
They need to feel they can trust you with her life and by talking to them they’ll be able to see where your head and your heart is

15. Go to church with her-
If you’re trying to build your relationship to be better and stronger, God and His word will surely help. Plus, it will help both of you be better throughout your lives on all levels

16. Be respectful-
Don’t disrespect her with your words or your actions, alone or in front of others

17. Be observant-
If you notice a change in mood, new ways of dressing or a new hairstyle speak on it. Be prepared for good or bad news. She may be going through a change in life and will need to know you’re supportive and you care

18. Pray or read the bible with her-
Strengthening up your relationship on all levels is the final outcome when you include the Lord in your lives

19. Date her-
No matter how long you’ve been together, always date her. Have a night where you go out on a date just like you did when you first met. Pay for the night out too!

20. Be a gentleman-
Chivalry is NOT dead! Whenever she’s with you she shouldn’t know what a door handle feels like. Pull her chair out for her. Help her with her coat. Compliment her

21. Be the maid-
Clean, wash dishes, do all the chores. There is no such thing as ‘man’ chores or ‘woman’ chores. Give her a break and clean up properly, just how she does it for you

22. Be the chef-
Make her a nice hot meal. If you cook meat, take time to cut it up for her, trust me she’ll notice and love you for it

23. Do an activity she loves to do-
She’s been asking you for months to join her in her yoga class. Whatever it is, just try it. You may like it!

24. Let her have a girls’ night out-
Sometimes women just need to have fun with the girls. If you’re a good man, no matter what another man says to her while she’s out, it’s not going to convince her to leave you for him

25. Send flowers-
Yes! No matter what kind they are, unless she is allergic to them, women love flowers! Sending them to her job will definitely make her smile…a day to silently say “In your face” to all of her coworkers

26. Never put anyone before her-
She is your rock! She is your rib returned to you! She is your top priority and she and everyone else needs to know that!

27. Sit down with her and do bills-
It’s a hard task to tackle and you both need to know where the money is going and how you’re looking financially.

28. Be responsible-
If she wanted to date an irresponsible man, she had other options. Think before you do

29. Pick up a card-
If you’re not a poet or your handwriting is awful, purchase her a card and leave it some place where she won’t expect to find a card. The words are already written and she’s worth fifty cents to a dollar. Yes, they come that cheap!

30. Recall a past memory-
Talk about the day you first met, your first kiss or another memorable event that you two have shared. She’ll enjoy knowing that you still remember

31. Send her on a trip-
Let her have an overnight stay or a weekend getaway someplace. Even if it’s in a nice local hotel, she’ll appreciate it

32. Compliment her parenting skills-
If she’s the mother of your children or she’s helping raise children that aren’t biologically hers, tell her she’s doing a great job when she assists with a situation involving the kids

33. Hug often-
Give her a good tight hug just because. Sometimes at the end of the day that’s all she needs from you

34. Never call her ugly names-
They lied when they said, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” Words hurt and calling her stupid, dumb, bitch or anything else ugly will stay with her forever

35. Introduce her first-
When you’re out and you run into old friends, whether male or female, introduce her first. Don’t leave her standing in the background like she’s one of your groupies

36. Always consult with her-
NEVER, ever agree to do anything for anyone without talking it over with her. From loan/borrowing money to something as small as giving/getting a ride or giving the neighbor sugar, she needs to know what is going in and out of her home!

37. Never fight in public-
Are you a rival gang? Then argue in private. Letting others see where your weak spot is in your relationship is not good

38. Be a massage therapist-
When she comes home from work and sits next to you, massage her feet and calves for a few minutes while you both talk about your day

39. Dress your age-
You are not a young hip-hop college student no matter what your mind is telling you. You’re way over the age of 35 years old and should dress the part. Women absolutely LOVE when their men are dressed as sharp as a pencil and not like their son’s best friend from high school. You want her dressed appropriately, so pull up your pants and do the same.

40. Help her dress-
I had a boyfriend who knew my closet just as well as I did. We would be out and he would select something and remind me how well it would match up with something I already owned at home. If you have good taste, help her select an outfit for work or for a night out. She’ll love to hear your advice

41. Give her a treat-
In the middle of the day run over to her job and drop off some of her favorite cookies or cupcakes. Don’t stay long because you have to get back to work too. Let her know you were thinking of her and leave a bag of her favorite candy behind
Plan a date out with her and her friends-
Get to know her friend and their mate.

42. Plan a day of new adventures-
Take her to a new restaurant or park. Invite her to do a new activity like indoor wall climbing or paints and wine. Drive an hour away and check out a new town. Just get out there and discover new things together!

43. Play games-
Have game night at your house with board games or cards and the winner gets to have bragging rights until the next match!

44. Be real-
Tell her what is really on your mind. You brushing over issues and not really stating what’s on your mind will get you nowhere. Be honest. Tell her what you’ve been thinking or wanting to do. Tell her your dreams and goals. If she’s ‘the one’ she’ll be open to hear all you have to say

45. Say, “I love you”-
Say it, mean it and show it.

46. Make a montage-
Get together all of the photos or videos of you two and make a movie or a special photo album

47. Paint her toes for her-
I’ve had this done for me and it’s something I’ll never forget

48. Plan a major vacation-
Sit down and start planning a major vacation with her! Go for the gusto and have fun in the process

49. Workout together-
A healthy lifestyle creates a happy life!

50. Play 007-
Create a secret code, word, phrase or movement that will signal to her you’re ready to leave a boring party or you’re ready to get it on. Whatever you come up with only you and her will no what it means

51. Have a favorite song-
Every time you hear that song let it be ‘your’ song. It can be fast or slow but just have a special meaning for the two of you

52. Wake her up ready-
If you have children get them ready and serve her breakfast in bed during the week. Let her start her day off with a full belly and love from you

53. No misleading-
If you no longer want to be in the relationship and/or you want to see other people, tell her. Let her know the truth with how you feel so she can cut ties and move on

54. Watch your tone-
No matter what you say it’s all about how you say it. Having an attitude when you talk or making snide remarks does not cut it

55. Never forget-
When you were down and out and had nothing to offer, she was there. Now that you’ve come up, broke even and have more don’t forget who buttered your bread when you didn’t have bread or butter

56. Learn to apologize-
Learn to say the words, “I’m sorry” and mean it. Then whatever you had to apologize for don’t let it happen again. When women find themselves forgiving a man for the same mistake over and over again, it’s no longer an accident he is making, he’s hurting us intentionally

57. Have a plan-
Do you have a plan for life? Do you have a backup plan if that plan fails? Most importantly, are you working your plan? Some men have no clue, don’t be one of them

58. Keep a job-
It may not be the highest paid job in the world. It may not even be pretty, but a man should always have a job. You can’t call the shots or play king of the castle when you’re unemployed

59. Educate yourself-
Go back to school. Take a class. But make yourself more marketable, more valuable and wiser

60. Read a book-
You don’t have to be the chairman of your local library but pick up a book and read it. The saying is, “If you want to keep something away from them, put it in a book.” Don’t let ‘them’ be right

61. Hold her at night-
When you fall asleep make sure she is being held. There is nothing like feeling safe and protected while falling asleep in the arms of your man

62. Hold her hand-
In public don’t be ashamed or afraid to hold her hand. That speaks volumes to all who see

63. Never let others disrespect her-
If people see you lying to her, calling her names, and hurting her you are giving them the okay to do the same thing to her. Don’t allow yourself or others to disrespect her

64. Don’t do things that you know she doesn’t like-
No matter how big or small that thing is, if she doesn’t like it and you know she doesn’t like it then don’t do it. Every guy I’ve dated knows I hate being tickled and each one has tickled me over and over again. Stop irritating her!

65. Tell her she’s beautiful-
The media is trying to train and shape us to believe only a certain type of woman is beautiful when in fact, beautiful women come in all shapes, sizes and color. Let her hear it from you that she is your top model

66. Make her a gift-
If you have a special talent, make her something wonderful.

67. Dedicate a song-
Call her favorite radio station and dedicate a special song to her

68. Replace it-
If she’s been meaning to replace something that she lost or broke, buy it for her. She’ll really appreciate it

69. Write her a love letter-
Get some fancy paper and a pen and pour your heart out to her in a letter. She’ll hold on to it forever

70. Keep a journal-
It doesn’t have to be something you write in daily, it can just be what you keep all your ticket stubs and other mementos in on your dates out. Give it to her as a gift once it’s full

71. Become a dj-
Put all of her favorite songs on her iPod, iPad or on a cd

72. Let her be bad-
Let her be YOUR bad girl! Let her get as freaky and erotic as she wants without you questioning how and where she got her skills. She just may have another side to her that she’s been afraid to share with you because of your insecurities

73. Maintenance her vehicle-
When you drive her car take it for an oil change, get it washed and vacuum it out

74. Massage her scalp-
If she feels comfortable allowing you to play in her hair, massage her scalp. A hidden secret that many close couples do

75. Call-
When you’re out and you’re running late returning home or if you’ve been gone for a few hours and haven’t talked to her, call. It only takes a minute just to say you were checking on her. Don’t assume everything is alright or she may not need you. She just may want to hear your voice

76. Ask yourself ‘The Question’-
If you’re doing something and you’re not sure if it’s the right thing to do, ask yourself, “Would I want her to do what I’m getting ready to do?” If your answer is no, then you know you better not do it either

77. Give her a day alone-
Let her have the house to herself. Let her feel free to sing, dance, walk around naked with no children, no guests and no you being there

78. Take her shopping-
For groceries, shoes or clothes she’s down for any and all

79. Be dependable-
Whatever you do for her do it in a timely manner allowing her to know that if anything major breaks out you can handle the pressure and assist her in her efforts to get life back to normal

80. Be trustworthy-
Don’t give her reasons not to trust you. Everything you say and do should be noble and honorable. She should not have reason to doubt you

81. Watch it-
Watch her favorite television show or movie with her. Even if it is sappy or girly just you being together makes the moment special

82. Order for her-
Place her order for her next time you’re out. It makes the dining experience so more romantic

83. Picnic-
If the weather is bad outside who said you can’t have a picnic inside? Push the furniture back, put on some great music and eat good food right there at your indoor picnic

84. Forsake all others-
It’s no longer about you and your boys or even your mother. When you committed your all to her she became your number one now. Make sure everyone is aware of that

85. Take her advice-
You’ve been doing it your way for quite some time and it hasn’t worked. Be open enough to hear her out and do what she suggests. You can’t go wrong because she’s not going to steer you that way

86. Don’t hide it-
No matter how bad the situation may be do not hide it from her. Put it all on the table so it can be discussed and worked out

87. Work on it together-
Pick a project and work on it from beginning to end together. It can be anything from fixing something around the house fixing a meal. Big or small do it together

88. Be pampered-
Together, go to a day spa and be pampered. Get a couples’ massage, pedicures, manicures, facials, eat lunch. Go for the full treatment. You’ll both be relaxed and be ready to love on one another for the rest of the day.

89. Make your home a home-
Don’t always have guests over. Make your home comfortable enough for others to want to come and visit but comfortable enough for you two to have heaven on earth. Tell your friends and family to respect the time you and your mate spend together at home

90. Laugh-
Pop in a movie, go to a comedy show, and tell jokes, just laugh. You’ll be in a better mood to deal with anything and everything

91. Get help-
When things aren’t going right in your relationship, don’t be afraid to get professional help. There are trained individuals who are out here to help. Go to a psychologist, a minister or someone else who can help you in rough times. That doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means you want better

92. Be at one with nature-
Go watch the sun rise or set. Take a late night stroll and look at the stars. Go to the beach and enjoy the water, just take time out to keep it natural

93. Turn off technology-
Turn off your cell phone, television and anything else that is distracting. Have special quiet times with each other and you’ll learn so much more

94. Talk in the dark-
At night when the house is quiet get in bed and talk about anything and everything. Sometimes things are better said in the dark

95. Wash her hair-
If she’s open to it, the next time she goes to wash her hair at home, wash it for her. What a great bonding moment!

96. Teach her something-
Teach her something important or fun. Make sure she’s prepared for anything whether it’s changing or flat tire or winning the next Trivial Pursuit game

97. Learn something from her-
She has life skills and other experiences that you can learn. Be open minded enough to learn something new from her. That makes you a better man, not less than a man

98. Don’t share-
Don’t share your personal relationship issues and business with everyone but her. She’s your queen, your rib and your best friend so talk to her before talking to the outside world

99. Write a list-
Make a list of ‘Things You May Not Know’ and see how many new things you can learn about each other. Maybe she never told you that she came in 1st place in a baby contest or maybe she doesn’t know about the time you got your head stuck in banister. Whatever it is come up with some things, share, laugh and learn

100. Be the best-
No matter what happens with your relationship, always be the best man that you can be. Treat her like you would like someone to treat you, your mother, and your daughters. She’s someone’s mother and daughter too and she deserves the best
Erotically Speaking,
Karma Eve

Whenever He Talks

Whenever He Talks

Words dripped from his lips

And I stuck my tongue out to catch each one

Because I wanted to taste every letter that spilled out of his mouth

I nourished my soul from the things that he said

I was fed by the spoonful every a, e, i, o, and u and sometimes y that dripped off his chin

Every consonant he spoke tasted just as sweet as the adjectives he used

To describe me

Watching his full sexy lips as he breathed life into each sentence I couldn’t help but hunger for more

The smooth sound of his voice was like a hypnotic sensual melody that lulled me into an erotic fantasy

Where when he spoke

His words were etched into my skin for me to see over and over again

I wanted to slowly lick every conversation where he told me how he loved my body

And how it filled out in all the right places

Just for him

I wanted to suck every part of his communication when he described being inside me was like being on vacation

I am his paradise

Damn, these words taste so nice

Sipping and slurping on his hors d’oeuvres of remarks

I couldn’t help but nibble, bite, and chew on his delectable phrases about me and my sexiness

I swallowed every tasty morsel of his personal powwow

And he left no bitter aftertaste of his mouthwatering talkfest

I was filled to the brim with the spicy mixture of nouns, verbs, and all those other parts of his yummy speech that made his vocabulary delicious

So whenever he begins to talk

I just listen 

Erotically Speaking,

Karma Eve

Pay Respect: Lucille Bogan

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but we are NOT the first generation of Erotic Artists.

There are a number of erotic stars from eras long before we were thought of that have paved the way for us newbies to have the freedom to do what we love to do. From authors to songwriters these artists have broken barriers that thankfully we as today’s artists don’t have to face.

Today’s blog is a reminder to know who came before you. For example, if you were trying to become the next big rap star and your knowledge of rap and hip-hop only consisted of Lil’ Wayne, Kanye West, and Wiz Khalifa then you just may have a problem. If you’re not aware of the pioneers in your genre then you’re not properly equipped to be an expert or star of today and especially not one in the future.

Instead of highlighting those of us who are wet behind the ears and between the legs, I would like to show respect and give honor to the REAL erotic kings and queens of erotica. Today, I’d like to introduce you to one of my favorites, Bessie Jackson, better known as LUCILLE BOGAN.

Known for her risqué lyrics, Lucille Bogan was a blues singer originally from the South. Recording since 1923 she didn’t begin making her sexually charged songs until a few years later in 1930 singing of prostitution, homosexuality, and sex. One song titled, B D Woman’s Blues (BD referred to Bull Dykes) she wrote the following lyrics…

B.D. women, you sure can't understand
They got a head like a sweet angel and they walk just like a natural man…
B.D. women, they all done learnt their plan
They can lay their jive just like a natural man…
B.D. women, B.D. women, you know they sure is rough
They all drink up plenty whiskey and they sure will strut their stuff…

Between 1933 and 1935 she recorded over 100 songs with at least three being popular commercial successes. Her final song was recorded in New York on March 5, 1935 and it’s also a favorite of mine, Shave ‘Em Dry.

I got nipples on my titties

Big as the end of my thumb

I got somethin’ between my legs

That’ll make a dead man come…

I fucked all night

And the night before, baby

And I feel like I wanna fuck some more

Oh, grind me honey

Shave me dry…

She passed away in 1948 from coronary sclerosis. Thank you, Lucille for being a Queen of Erotica.

Erotically Speaking, 

Karma Eve

14 Things I have Learned About Sex by the Age of 40

14 Things I Have Learned About Sex by the Age of 40





Here is a list of sex related things I have learned that I think we can all shake our heads in agreement to. What’s listed here isn’t anything so new and unusual that you haven’t done, figured out or are willing to try yourself. These are just those little things we tend to ignore or not pay as much attention to in the course of our sexual lives. As always, please feel free to add to the list and leave comments. I’m always happy to see what you have to say.



• Keep it neat: You can let the hair on your ‘who-ha’ grow wild as the bushes in the backyard of an abandoned house or cut cute designs in it or shave the hair completely off, it doesn’t matter just as long as you keep it neat and clean. Fellas, this applies to you as well!



• Size does matter: Yes, size does matter and we’re talking more girth, meaning width than length. Waaay back in the day I did it with a guy and it felt like I was being fucked with a pencil. No need to wonder, that was the LAST time we did it! Ladies can work with a nice size penis if it has some width to it, but if it’s just long for no reason, you need a pencil sharpener not a pussy.



• Masturbation is cool: Whoever says different needs to go back to the day of burning witches at the stake. Who can treat you better than you? Nobody. So enjoy yourself.



• Cuddle time is fun: It doesn’t matter how strong, big or tough he is he likes to bask in the afterglow of your lovemaking session too. Cuddle up next to your lover and listen to his heart beat.



• Don’t fake the funk: Or should I say, don’t fake the fuck? Either way, don’t fake that you’re enjoying it when you’re not. Tell your lover what you would like done so that you both can reach the ultimate ‘O’ the way you should.



• He likes it funky: You just got in from work and you want to head straight for the shower. Or you just arrived home from the gym and you’re ready to wash the grit and grim off. Trust me, I understand but what you think is funky is a turn-on for your lover. It’s your natural scent times 100 and he LOVES it. Go ‘head, let him hit it!



• He loves you: Stop being embarrassed by your stretch marks, old scars, saggy breasts and other flaws. Believe me he loves every scratch, bite and mole on your lovely body.



• Dress up: You always wear those jeans and that same old shirt. Retire that tired outfit and give him/her something to look at and want more! When you dress good, you not only look good but you feel good. Remind your lover why they took the time out to come and talk to you when you first met.



• Use technology: With us being busy everyday for different reasons sometimes it’s hard to keep the love flowing and going. Send a sexy text message or email detailing what you want to do the next time you’re together. Pick up the phone and have phone sex or leave a steamy voice mail. All will be appreciated.



• Talk dirty: It’s also called Aural Sex and all you have to do is say it! Away from one another or face-to-face, have some verbal stimulating conversation that is going to drive you both insane. It’s okay, we’re adults.



• Let’s Play: You can dress up and role play in the privacy of your home or you can take it to another level and play outside the home. My husband and I will go out and ‘meet’ each other and talk to one another like we just met. Asking questions and flirting adds so much fun to it. At the end of the night one of us gets to take the other home!



• Nipples, the real secret: His nipples are just as sensitive as yours and he would love for you to pay some attention to them! It does enhance the arousal experience for him. So next time gently lick or nibble on them and watch his reaction!



• You first: I have learned that you are with a truly attentive and wonderful lover if he is pleasing you and wanting you to come first. What a gem!



• Push the right button: Yes fellas, the intercourse thing is wonderful but you want your woman to feel total bliss, pamper her clit. Sometimes we just love to have clitoral stimulation without feeling like we’re the nail and you’re the hammer. A lot of woman can only have an orgasm with clitoral stimulation. Surprise!

Erotically Speaking,
Karma Eve

The Day the Penis Asked for a Raise

The Day the Penis asked for a Raise




I, the Penis, hereby request a raise in salary for the following reasons:

I do physical labor.

I work at great depths.

I plunge headfirst into everything I do.

I do not get weekends or public holidays off.

I work in a damp environment.

I work in a dark workplace that has poor ventilation.

I work in high temperatures.

My work exposes me to contagious diseases.



Sincerely,



P. Niss





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The Response:



Dear Penis:



After assessing your request, and considering the arguments you have raised, the administration rejects your request for the following reasons:

You do not work 8 hours straight.

You fall asleep after brief work periods.

You do not always follow the orders of the management team.

You do not stay in your designated area and are often seen visiting other locations.

You do not take initiative - you need to be pressured and stimulated in order to start working.

You leave the workplace rather messy at the end of your shift.

You don't always observe necessary safety regulations, such as wearing the correct protective clothing.

You will retire well before you are 65. (for those on medication). .

You are unable to work double shifts.

You sometimes leave your designated work area before you have completed the assigned task.

And, if that were not all, you have been seen constantly entering and exiting the workplace carrying two suspicious-looking bags.



Sincerely,



V. Gina

Thanks, DaVenom Spitta for sharing this with us!
Erotically Speaking,
Karma Eve

Let's Write, Rigth

Let’s Write, Right



Someone is always asking me for advice on how to write. I’ve written a quick list on some basic writing tips that can help you along in your journey. These are some guidelines that have helped me. Feel free to add your own hints and tips at the end. We can always use new ideas. Thank you.



(P.S. These tips/hints are in no particular order)



• Always use a dictionary, a thesaurus and if need be a rhyming dictionary. They all help us spell properly as well as build up our vocabulary. I’ve heard some writers say it’s like cheating to use these items. I say, see how you feel if you go to a mechanic and he tells you it would be cheating if he used his tools to work on your vehicle.





• Learn how to properly space your work out. Thatmeansdon’thaveanentirestoryorpoeminonegiganticorlongparagraph. As the reader, no one wants to read a never-ending sentence. Just like no one wants to hold a conversation with a person who doesn’t know when to stop talking. Give your story a moment to breathe between sentences and events within it self.



• Make smooth transitions from one event to the next within your work. As a reader, no one likes to read that they are in one place one minute and without notice they find themselves in a different place within the story. As writers, we’ll leave our readers feeling lost, confused and disconnected from our characters. Build a bridge that is going to carry your readers safely over from one side of your story/poem to the next.



• Proofread and use spell check. This isn’t back in the 1980’s or years before where we had very limited access to a computer and you just had to be a good speller. We all have access to some of the best technology money can buy and it each affords us the spell check function. Use it with everything you write. How can you convince someone your story/poem is ahsum when you can’t even spell awesome?



• Read your story/poem out loud. That’s right, hear what you’ve written. If you find yourself stumbling over words and finding it difficult to be able to get through your own piece, how do you think your reader is going to feel when they read it? Take time out to read your work out loud. This will show you when you need to emphasize within your work or where it needs to be relaxed. This also gets you in touch and in tuned with your characters.



• Get someone to read your work. Get an intelligent, trusted friend (or two) to read what you’ve written and give you feedback. Don’t get someone who you know will agree and like whatever you’ve written because that doesn’t help you to grow as a writer. Get someone who is going to give you honest feedback that is going to challenge you, as well as help you grow. A ‘yes-man’ is not needed when you are trying to get your work read by the public.



• Research, research, research. Research before, during and after what you write. Don’t write a story or poem that has your character on the internet and your story is set back in 1975.



• Read. Yes, you have to read the work of other great writers, writers from other genres as well as the genre that you’re writing in. You can’t call yourself a true mystery writer and yet you don’t read the books of other great writers in that same group. This also gives you a chance to find out who some of the best of the best are from early years to the most recent. You may find many different styles that you may want to include in your work as well throughout your writing career.



Remember, to always represent yourself through your work the best way you can. Keep in mind, sometimes the only way a person knows you as a writer is through something they may have read that’s been passed on, that they have purchased or something that has been posted anywhere on the internet. You want to have the best reputation out here as a writer so don’t sell yourself cheap and don’t try to make your readers and fans accept cheap.



I hope this has helped. Remember if you have some tips of your own please list them. We’d love to hear from you. Thank you.
Erotically Speaking,

Karma Eve